When is the right age to get married? Options

[jaba]

Wondering everyones oppion on this, when do you think the best age range to get married is? I got married at 19, looking back I think it was way to young to get married, my husband and I both had no clue about marriage but thank God it all worked out. My SIL got engaged at 16 and married at 17 when I found out I wanted to shake her because she really has no clue what she's getting herself into and the fact that no one seems to be a fan of birth control in Syria makes me even more worried.

[Dumuzi]

I don't think there's a best age for marriage. I mean it depends on soooo many things. So each to their own really.

[Coexist]

Yeah I was too young. 17 with the verbal Islamic marriage, 18 when it was made legal. I was willing and able to be a wife, but was too blind to see what my husband really wanted.

I don't think a marriage between young people (or involving a young person) can't work. But I believe it's better to wait a few years, live a little, get an education, because all marriages are risky. If it doesn't work, you didn't waste your younger years for nothing, and you have your education, career, or some other financial plan to fall back on.

[jazain]

as dumuzi said, its different for different ppl and depends on maturity levels. there are some ppl who never grow up though. you need to experience life a bit, know what you want out of a partner and what youre able to give to a partner.

[LadyGarnetRose]

30

[Romaica]

Get married when you're mature and ready to take responsibility.

[burningmoon]

Before one starts infatuating about the opposite sex

[jaba]

some people start drooling over the other sex at 13 doesn't mean they should get married

[burningmoon]

some people start drooling over the other sex at 13 doesn't mean they should get married

I dnt see anything wrong in it if its by choice and not force.

[Jim]

In modern times 13 isnt old enough to provide for a family which is a requirement of an Islamic marriage.

Even with a secular marriage or marriage in another faith it is practically not feasible.

Marriage is far beyond sexor the ability to agree to it.

[Saif Ali Khan Fa...]

When one can truly say he/she is ready (not when he/she wants to be ready but really is ready). I don't think there's a certain age. I got married at 22 and I've been married for two years. I have friends who are the same age as me and still not married and they feel that's best for them. So it really depends on the person. Although I think 13 in the modern era is too young to get married. I don't think teenagers should get married. I think 18 should be the minimum.

[Billy]

103.

[jazain]

i would shake my 13 year old silly if she said she wanted to get married cause she was infatuated...in that case all 13 year olds would married.

[jazain]

so what happens when youre already married and get infatuated with the opposite sex?? hmmmmmmm?

[Jim]

In modern times, I think the best time for youngsters to get married is upon entering full time work preferably after college or trade school and capable of living independently.

In the old days of the Prophets etc, this age was very young because responsibilities were taken up at a very young age sometimes as young as 12. Heck, you had 13 year olds running Kingdoms in the times of the Ancient Egyptians.

Modern times has a completely different dictate and kids are not taking on responsibilities to that same level as in the old days until they are in their late 20's. Some folks dont even achieve that mark, unfortunately.



Jaba... Im curious.. you're already thinking of marrying off your daughter??? she is only 2 months old

[jaba]

Jaba... Im curious.. you're already thinking of marrying off your daughter??? she is only 2 months old

Ha no way, but having a girl and seeing so many young girls (mainly in Syria) doing it makes you really think about this kind of stuff, esp because it happens a lot in my husbands family.
I want my daughter to have more oppertunities than I had and I don't think her being a teenage bride will help her in anyway.

[jaba]

I dnt see anything wrong in it if its by choice and not force.

did you marry the first person you had a crush on?

[Cenara]

Personally, 23 or 24.

If you're ready for commitment then you're good to go. It varies from person to person.

[Murteza]

for men : when u alredy attracted to girl/women

for women : when u already attracted to boys/men

[jazain]

ummm teza, even elementary school children develope crushes...come on get real ppl